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Tuesday, July 31, 2012

Sweat is, at times, pricier than blood

Certain things in life are not cultivated; they either exist or they don’t. I feel my penchant to become a Surgeon had been an ordeal of my ultimate destiny, and I carried this as a part of my Kismet. I suffered my own share of ups and downs in the pebbly ride of my professional voyage; yes, I used to feel less jinxed during the gall-filled moments that could have overpowered someone with fewer proclivities to accomplish a defined aim. No one is blessed the Godspeed just like that; one has to earn every pie of it.

Since my early college days, I had always been so excited to see myself as a Surgeon that I used to work very hard to have a firm grasp of my subjects. Had I not been innately motivated to wear the white coat one fine day, chances are ripe that a stumble upon could have sucked on my energies and I would have either not succeeded in my profession, or would have changed my profession altogether. I had a pretty normal college life. I also used to feel bogged down at times by the work burden , but then the next moment, when I started to realize that these are the stepping stones of me being ushered into the league of Surgeons, all the associated uncertainties and boredom used to thwart away.

Sweat is, at times, pricier than blood; I have always given it my one hundred percent whenever something required hard work and dedication in my professional realms; yes, there had been this driving force that I had to be the best, and it worked most of the times. The ‘hurry-hurry’ person eats goat; the one who takes his or her time eats beef. Even to this day, I don’t consider myself to be a veteran; every day is a day to learn something new, and that is precisely the beauty of a mind captivated by surgical sciences.

Déjà vu or Programming?

Have you ever looked upon the sky on a cloudy night? If you have, I am sure your gaze must have got transfixed with little deviance of your mind. That is the power of Nature; or shall we say some kind of déjà vu? If you ever happened to be alone in a beach and observe the tides, chances are bright that you would have attained exemplary nothingness in your mind. Have you ever got drenched in monsoon with no acquaintances nearby? How did that feel? Would you want to re-experience the enchantment of those moments? How do you feel when you come across a face that eludes nothing but innocence? Aren’t you left spellbound?

Why do we feel at ease in certain situations? Why do we feel longed for in certain situations? Do these events and occurrences belong to some sort of left-over representations of our numerous celestial avatars? Or Nature has coded us in a way that we feel warmth, contentment and joyous in the company of its primordial elements? What effect does thunder-lightening induces on your psyche? Do you think fear originates from objects and subjects or from within your own self? Do you believe in the eternity of love? I place my bet on the fact that love is the precursor of the Mother Nature. Every man for himself and God for us all; self-preservation is the first law of nature. But then what is ‘self’?

RML Hospital, My Alma Mater

During my stint at my Alma Mater, Dr R M L Hospital, New Delhi, I used to start seeing my admitted patients and in spite of starting my ward rounds early, these used to extend till early afternoon. This exercise used to be followed by surgeries in Operation Theatre; those were the days when RML Hospital was known as Willington Hospital. The patient load at Dr R M L Hospital used to be colossal, and we had to work really hard taking care of all the patients in our unit. Once our unit chief went for a vacation and could not join on time due to his own reasons. In those days, I and one of my very able colleagues, managed the unit on our own. Those were such good days; work used to be the only passion.

The entire hospital staff was like an extended family. When we used to perform some good case, we used to celebrate with the nurses and other medical staff by arranging fast food. I made some real good relations with staff nurses out there; and even to this day they visit me on Raksha Bandhan to tie the sacred rakhi on my wrist. The days were never dull; there was a chutzpah in every moment. There was so much to learn from life, which was pacing at an aggressive momentum to load us with the fundamental values of this profession. As time passed by, I became quite popular in Dr R M L Hospital and on rare days when I used to be a bit late, I was missed by my colleagues and seniors during those absent minutes.

Those days were so lustrous, so spirited that memories of those days still lie lily-fresh in my mind. Those days made me the self-willed and headstrong individual that I am this day; I have never allowed a day to bygone without really putting its events into the machinery of my brain for an in-depth analysis. To think is what I love the most; thoughts are my constant companions and I can never be left alone in this world.

I love you all my patients

A lot of times my poor patients give me such honeyed comments that I am taken aback. I am taken aback instantaneously without my will or efforts. They call me their messiah, and they never forget to bring me home made delicacies, hand made gifts during the festive season. They love the fact that I take interest in their lives. They feel ingratiating that I know most of their family members by names. It is no that I am approached for the medical disorders by my close-held horde of patients; they approach me for their personal and social problems as well. They trust me that whatever advice I would render would be the best one and that is the driving force in such situations. I have been made to intervene a lot of family feuds where I hold regard from both the parties involved in bad blood; and in most of the cases, my decisions have been duly respected. I feel good. 

I am not a doctor for whom there exists a demarcating line between professional and personal worlds. A lot of things that I do professionally embark on my personal spheres and the vice versa is also substantially true. Sometimes I wish I had copied down all the incidences of my life that happened after I started my hospital; I have seen the aspects of life and relationships in such a diversity that I am sure a lot of human behavior related theories could have been inferred from my experience. And I don’t want to be self-aggrandizing to take all the credit back home myself; I am sure a lot of doctors feel the same way. Patients come to us and uncover their problems in details. In a lot of cases, the source of their problems lies in their lives, in their minds, in their relationships. We become witness to them and this never ending process of learning keeps on going and going.

7 tips for anger management

Arrange a timeout: This is imperative; only those who have practiced it know its importance. Whoever told you that counting till 100 is for kids only must have smoked something gross. You ought to take a break from the circumstances of the heated moment, to be able to assess the situation from a different perspective.

Take deep breaths: Yes ! If you know how to meditate, you are so close to master the art of killing the angst prematurely. Deep breathing takes your concentration away from the problem and in turn, dilutes its memories. It is said one who knows art of breathing knows exactly how to keep anger under check.

Drink some water: More the merrier! It has been shown in numerous experiments that drinking water does something detrimental to the life span of anger and you must note that down. To enhance the effects, drink every gulp with a lot of savoring. Make your affair with water a grand one and prized one.

Get some physical exercise: Physical exercises are known to provide that vent for suppressed emotions. People go on for instant running, or weight lifting or brisk walking or any form of exercise they indulge in, the moment they start feeling their anger level escalating. Exercises release a spurt of positive hormones which restores the body’s environmental mileu to the optimal level.

Think before you speak: Only fools speak just like that; a cultivated mind knows the words that would be shooting from the lips. Anger suppresses the tolerability and wrong selection of words can create mayhem; don’t allow yourself to get provoked and think twice before you utter a sentence.

Identify possible solutions: Focus on something that takes your attention away from the anger source. Identify the reasons for your outburst and look out for the measures to contain it right there. Remind yourself that anger won't fix anything, and might only make it worse. As they say ‘Don’t go near the water until you learn how to swim’. Either lower down your threshold of the repetitive stimulus that causes you anger or plainly learn to modulate your mind using bundles of practicality.

Use humor to release apprehension: Humor is the antidote for all anxieties and angst. Use it effectively and watch your humor-proclivity-index breaking records along the y-axis. Don't use cynicism or sarcasm, though — it can hurt feelings and make things worse by contributing to misunderstandings and keeping grudges.

First illness of my life

During the first week of my life, beneath my seemingly glowing angelic skin, not everything was as normal as it appeared. As the days passed, my skin color started turning yellow. I started regurgitating out and turned sluggish. As if I started paying out for my past life’s sins in eagerness; how else can one relate a childhood illness? I was examined by the pediatrician and was diagnosed to be suffering with ‘Neonatal Jaundice’, a condition that takes place soon after birth and is characterized by development of deep jaundice. I was given conservative treatment at first, which included a lot of intravenous fluids and allied medications. 

My parents passed sleepless nights on my hospital bed, as in those days infant mortality was quite high and refractory neonatal jaundice was not a common phenomenon. Hopes were taking a jolt and gloom was the predominant emotion in my family. It was then that my pediatrician announced to subject me to an interventional procedure, exchange transfusion. This is a process in which the blood is made to pass through a machine in which the blood is filtered to thwart the toxic levels of bilirubin and other metabolites. I was made to undergo left sided exchange transfusion that very night; by that time my face had lost all its sheen and vitality & I had started getting dehydrated. But then as they say ‘faith will move mountains’, affection of my parents and competency of my doctor put me back on the pedestal of life, with double the vigor.

Random moments to cherish

The olive-coated voice of your love interest when you met first.
The chutzpah of childhood.
The thrill of overpowering someone in a game where you had been an underdog.
Your highest academic exploit.
The all time favorite tune of yours; which you consider yourself to be a part of.
The moment when you realized that life has more hidden meanings than some of the supernatural teleserials put together.
Mixed feelings when you flip down one of the old family albums.
Waiting in the crisp attire and bated breaths to be interviewed for the first time in your life for that 9 to 5.
Touch of icecream to the tip of your tongue.
Cumulative sound of hundreds of cuckoos, on a bright spring morning.
Pulling the window curtains to allow first ray of light enter your room.
Cuddling with your kid.
Suddenly coming to know that you actually shed tears watching a film.
The day you converted a foe to a friend.
The affection in your parents’ eyes when you outperformed yourself to make them happy.
When you start relating bits of your life with quotes from others (and you actually spend hours searching quotes).
Someone calls you with such an incredibly familiar tone that you instantly succumb to an induced déjà vu.

Keep it simple, keep it fair

I start my morning ward rounds very early in the morning. I believe that the first rounds of the day should be the most committed ones as one can devote a lot of time to the patients. And I must say, I have been bestowed with some of the most efficient nurses and staff that make this exercise a tonic for the day ahead. The rounds incorporate a lot of clinical examination, asking questions, reviewing lab reports, assessing clinical progress, answering queries, sensitizing about the change of treatment when required, counseling etc. I have an intense inclination to see things going on in an orderly way in my hospital. I take note of every patch of dust on the floor and every cripple in bed sheets. I feel bad when a patient complains that air conditioning in his room was not working properly during the night. I feel bad when a patient tells me that he had to press the ‘Nurse Call Button’ two times before he was attended by someone. Initially, when I had started my hospital, I used to get irate with such complaints and the concerned staff had to bear the brunt. As the time passed, the number of such episodes started decreasing, and my paroxysms of anger started getting evanescent. Now I don’t easily get angered by such things. By getting angered and displaying wrath, one can never achieve an objective fully. Anger handicaps the ability to use the conscience clearly, and in healthcare sector, we just can’t let ourselves work without our conscience and insight at proper places. I have made it mandatory for all the new staff to attend an induction program. This has been in practice at my hospital much before it started in most of the corporate hospitals in India; I learned about this in details during my stints at Hong Kong in early nineties. And I have seen the benefits. People joining my organization clearly get to know what their objectives and how do they fit in a certain role; that eases my load and spares me from unnecessary worries.

Potential Power of Prayer

I believe that the authority of prayer is first felt by the realization of what a prayer is all about. Prayer has power and it forms the sacred cord between us and God. It's a sense of God's assent in our dominions. People have different thoughts about possibilities that a prayer beholds. To some of us, prayers stimulate our own belief-cells and by virtue of positive thought process, we accomplish what we had been praying for. To some of us, prayers activate positively skewed energy chakras of Nature and help making us and our wishes in rhythm. To some of us, prayer is an outlet to communicate our feelings with God, and he blesses us just like a parent would do. Whether prayer is the astrophysical entity or a soliloquy, I can’t say with certainty; however, I have realized that a prayer has a lot to do with our own energy fields and power of belief.

I believe that we experience the stellar power of God when our wishes start getting fulfilled. We realize that God has been reaching out for us all along and the realization of establishment of bimodal dialogue is one of those priceless feelings one never forgets. Apostle Paul wrote to the people of Ephesus about God's yearning for us in a quite exquisite way "that we may no longer be children, tossed to and fro and carried about with every wind of doctrine, by the cunning of people, by their craftiness in deceitful wiles." In prayer, the essence of our hearts and minds are streamlined to stir the super conscious and in this effort we also stimulate our own subconscious mind; the forces, in unison, make the most of the miracles. Prayer has such transforming power that it is said ‘Courage is fear that has said its prayers’! And along the same lines it is also said that the function of prayer is not to persuade God, but rather to change the nature of the person who prays.

Random Childhood Memorabilia

A dry May and a dripping June bringeth all things in tune. Such are the ways of childhood; some sunshine and some shades and what you get is a perfect blend of life in return. During my growing years, I tried my hands at every possible sport. And as I did that I found as if I was having a look at my own inner world, from different dimensions and varying focal lengths, of course. I used to be the ace shooter for my basketball team and contributed heavily in a series of triumphs in various tournaments. Playing basketball gave me that urbane edge, that stylish connotation. I used to play cricket also; my primary role was that of an off-break baller, though I fitted in the skin of an all rounder perfectly; I loved to keep the wickets on ‘as and when required’ basis. I used to score runs when in need, used to be electric in field and used to rough up the umpire on an odd day.

I was this typical Indian teenager, full of fracas and froth. The days gave enough reasons to be jubilant, and the night gave enough reasons to sleep tight. As the final exams of 9th class were approaching, my jig at sports blessed me with fractured patella bone (right sided), and to my apprehension, I had to miss the classes for a good two months. It came as a shock, as an eye opener you may say. It was so difficult sitting at home and not doing any activities that mention sports; it was like arriving at a screeching halt from a full throttle ride. It was one of the palpable Kafkaesque experiences of my life, and I can still feel the gloom that used to haunt me then.

Glory, uninterrupted.

Let your triumphs define you. There are two broad types of triumphs, or rather two kinds of ability displayed in the achievement of triumph by us. There is, first, the success either in big packages or small packages which comes to the man who has in him the innate power to do what few other can match; and what no amount of training, no determination or will power, will enable any run of the mill man to do unless the urge is pure and unyielding. The quality which the man possesses may be that which enables him to run a fifty yards in six and three-fourth seconds, or to play twenty separate games of chess at the same time blindfolded. No amount of training of body or mind would enable any good ordinary man to perform any one of these accomplishments.

This is the most outstanding and distinguishing kind of success and it can be attained only by the man who has in him the quality which separates him in kind no less than in degree from his fellows. But much the commoner type of success in every walk of life, in small moments and in small packages. This kind of success is open to a voux populi, if only they seriously determine to achieve it. It is the kind of success which is open to the average man of sound body, intact insight and fair mind, who has no remarkable mental or physical attributes, but who gets just as much as possible in the way of work out of the aptitudes that he does possess. As it is said popularly ‘every man must skin his own skunk’, we are the designers & the architects of our successes. 

An affair to remember

I remember my early days in operation theatres when I used to observe the procedures being done by my professors; it used to give me such a giant thrill those days. I used to observe every single happening in operation theatre with a child-like keenness; the dazzling sight of newly arranged surgical instruments; magic-like burst of rays from OT light, as if the light would heal in itself; the pre-operative fervor in preparing the patient; the penultimate moment before the scalpel touches the skin to make first incision; everything seems so astutely fallen in proper places.

As a child and a youth, the scene in films where they used to depict an Operation Theatre with a room that had a red bulb, an authoritative bulb I must say, used to make me feel the moments of anxiety that relatives of a patient had to experience while waiting outside Operation Theatre with their glances fixed on that red bulb. Even today, I am pretty moved by the relatives who wait outside the Operation Theatre to receive the best news at the earliest. How can one not move by such events? I mean we have our own emotional side, which turns vulnerable at times; and certain virtues don’t loose their sheen with the passing days. 

Compassion is a quality that a patient always tries to find out in his doctor, and the moment he sees a hint of that, his faith swells with multitudes. I make it a point to keep the relatives amply updated about the status of their patient who remains inside the ‘red bulb’ territory for this is the next best thing I can do apart from operating the patient in my best skills; I feel this is one small step in making the world a kind place.

Good looking apples are sometimes sour

Life is a glorious outcome of little pieces of randomness where events are not as random as they seem in the first sight. For every little thought there lies a motive in the backseat; conscious, unconscious or subconscious. We win friends in our life times; the friends who remain there with you to vitiate the poisonous fangs of adversities; we earn enemies in our life times; the enemies who fail to recognize you as the flesh-and-soul versions of their own alter-egos.

You know a man by the sweat of his brow and the strength of his word. Life would present before you an assortment of masquerades, for you to judge and make the choices that help you soar high. If you want something, take positive action to get it: Ask, and it shall be given you—don’t just sit there hoping that something will turn up. As you brew so shall you drink; it’s as simple as that. You expect to see ghouls and you would start seeing them; you focus on the wafer-thin stream of white light and you would start seeing it. We, ourselves, are responsible for the opportunities we get and for the chances that we miss.

Probably the only difference between stumbling blocks and stepping-stones is the way we use them.

God gives nuts, but he doesn’t crack them

Life is an equal opportunity beneath the sheaths. It doesn’t eschew one at the face value, but embraces people with a clear mind and warrior instinct. The chances are equal; everyone gets the same supply of sunrays and morning whiff of air. Everyone has been given the measures to experience dejection and pleasure. Hope thrills everyone; opportunity strikes every door; a 6 year old’s smile charms every sinking soul; people perceive the tastes and smells equally; the sight of a blooming flower is soothing to eyes, both to a child and a veteran.

God gives senses and instinct to attain an understanding with the available options, and then to explore them in the way you like it to reap the best results. Just like they say ‘Trust in Allah, but tie your camel’. One is expected to toil for one’s needs and desires, for nature is automated in this very way; nothing bequeaths you just like that, there is an intact, and sometimes complex, purpose behind the curtains. Its us who have the power to make a difference in the way we live our lives. Like they say in Yiddish, Everyone is kneaded out of the same dough, but not baked in the same oven.

Since birth, we are exposed to different philosophies, different cultures, different religions and different bent of minds; we must practice our own inner intellect and intuition to select a path that illumines the way to our destinies. We must be more receptive to changes; like they say if the Stone Age children had obeyed their parents, we would still be living in the Stone Age. Every mind is a factory in itself that has the ability to churn something really new; we must stop being repetitive for this defies the primordial purpose of life. Seek out the truths with open mind and embrace the source of pleasure, which lies just inside your own shell.

The legend, Sushruta

Whenever I get sometime, I like to explore the lives of past surgeons and doctors to know their thought process, their times and their contributions to the society.  I feel, like most of my colleagues, extremely fascinated by the life of Sushruta. Sushruta, the father of surgery, who lived nearly 150 years before Hippocrates, brilliantly described the fundamental principles of surgery in his famous ancient treatise 'Sushruta Samhita' (1,2) in 600 B.C . Sushruta taught the surgical demeanors to his students on various modules, such as, giving incisions on fleshy fruits and vegetables (like watermelon, cucumber, gourd etc.), probing on moth infested and worm eaten wood which acquires soft consistency etc.

Sushruta strongly believed and advocated that knowledge of both surgery and medicine are essential to make a good doctor who otherwise is akin a bird with only one wing. Sushruta had been a staunch believer in importance of knowing anatomy well for anyone who wished to become a doctor, or a healer.  For most of use, it would be hair-raising to know about knowledge base of Sushruta even in those days. Shushruta has astutely described surgery under eight heads C hedya (excision), Lekhya (scarification), Vedhya (puncturing), Esya (exploration), Ahrya (extraction), Vsraya (evacuation) and Sivya (Suturing).

On of the famous sayings of Sushruta that is often quoted in high-profile seminars these days says, ‘Any one, who wishes to acquire a thorough knowledge of anatomy, must prepare a dead body and carefully observe and examine all its parts’. Upon knowing the legends of Sushruta, one automatically tends to think of the role and scope of pre-surgical anesthesia in those days. Sushruta famously writes that wine should be used before operation to produce insensibility to pain. The patient who has been fed, does not faint, and he who is rendered intoxicated, does not feel the pain of the operation. It makes me feel so inspired when I turn around pages of history in want of surgeons who contributed in their own ways. They had eaten more salt than we have eaten rice. Long live Sushruta ! 

Only love is real

Saturday, June 30, 2012

Kindness is non-negotiable

Practice kindness to the pith. Your present state is an outcome of your past deeds and your future would be shaped by what you indulge in today. All said and done, many a times we get carried away by a flicker of sentiment and put our thinking neurons to hibernation; an outburst of anger, hatred or revenge follows and we, inadvertently, become the destructors of our destinies. The paroxysms of anger have always resulted in bad blood; one must take a pause and think about the situation from an altogether different perspective.

Human life is a constant struggle for achieving the state of nothingness; a state where you become empty inside as you contain everything. Quite an oxymoron, but that is the truth of life; when you seek refuge in worldly emotions, you keep on getting jolts, one after another. When you stop reacting to distracting stimulus and invest in true emotions, such as love, hope and kindness, you start experiencing as if the nature is breathing in tandem with you. Life is a bouquet of wild roses and life is an assortment of poisonous thorns; the perception of life depends on your perspective and thought process.

Kindness is the non-negotiable law of nature. Most of the awe-inspiring and heaven-sent experiences happen when you display abundance of kindness. To forgive is kindness; to sacrifice is kindness; the beatific display of abundant care is kindness; non-violence is kindness; respecting others’ mental spheres is kindness; to lessen others’ burdens is kindness. Practicing kindness comes as an addiction to those who derive the psychic pleasures out of it; when you start contributing to Mother Nature’s equilibrium of energies by practicing kindness, you truly shine out as the most resplendent diamond.

My memorable mornings

It has been such a ceremonialistic routine all these years for me to start my day with the onset of dawn. Sometimes, I precede dawn in making my arrival known to the folks in my hospital. In my college days, I used to think that something is wrong either with my reticular activating system or with my melatonin secreting apparatus. How else could an ordinary undergraduate relate with a short sleep requirement. A lot of people feel somnolent in the day time even after enjoying a sound sleep of 10-11 hours in the night time; some people are blessed the other way round. I consider myself to be a blessed identity in this aspect; I feel extremely wakeful and fresh after a sleep of 3 hours. I mean that much sleep is enough to get me bouncing the whole day; I wouldn’t feel like catching forty winks. On the saddest days I have managed to sleep for 6-7 hours, and haven’t really liked the exercise. Even my buddy-buddy patients know this fact and don’t hesitate calling me any part of the day or night for any of the health related concerns that they find worth bringing up to my notice.

The first thing I do after waking up is to remember my parents. My wake up cycle has embedded this spiritual exercise and I do this without getting any reminders from the brain; this is a realm where subconscious calls the shots and the body obeys. Next, I pray to almighty to give me strength to render my best knowledge, without any prejudice, to all my patients and to contribute my share in making their lives merrier and free of health related worries. I have always found the time of early morning the best for my creative imagination. This is the time when my body is in synchronization with my spiritual activity and everything seems so tranquil, without any preconceived notions.

Initial days of my brush with blogging

It was with at the behest of one of my colleagues at my hospital that I spent a couple of hours understanding the nuances of what actually a blog is. The year was 2008. The month was November. The climatic fervor was youthful. I discovered the diamond. As a child I had practiced writing my own diary that chronicled daily events in my own biased version; little did I know that a lot of people are writing their diaries in the web version for the ordinary person to read, appreciate and be inspired. A blog is a diary in which you can pen down anything you want. It will be updated within seconds and it will remain forever in the monarchy of internet. I was left ensorcelled by the possibilities of creative power attained, if I started to operate my own blog. That night I got a fragmented sleep, and wool-gathering was the essence of the coming day. I was partially in a reverie. Oh how badly I wanted to start sharing my observations with ordinary people, how badly I wanted to let people know my edition of life and it’s lanes. Every life is a story worth telling. Every life is a jamboree worth its gall.

The next morning, I signed up on blogger, the official blog platform of google. Though during those days a lot of folks were using wordpress, I was a bit cynical to host my blog on wordpress. I don’t know why. May be it had to do with the installation process and customization efforts that required a bit of insight knowledge of the technology, which I was not sure whether I possessed. I was more comfortable with the blogger interface and the options of templates and layouts it provided. In a matter of minutes, my blog was all ready to take birth. I was as happy as a sandboy and my mind had started working on what would be my first blog post.

Betrayals happen; life is a pebbly ride

I have seen very close colleagues, dear folks and random people betraying my trust when I was least prepared. I have seen myself landing between rock and hard plane quite a few times, and the memories of most aghast attempts still haunt me. These are the days when one can really relate to one’s belongings and one’s beliefs. I have emerged out from the tunnels of coal, remaining unstained but the process has been every inch nightmarish.

During such unfortunate spells, I have cocooned myself from the fickle minded attempts at maligning my reputation. Mum’s the word for me in such situations as I am an uncompromising believer in the power of actions. I am not someone who can be made mince meat of easily; and I believe that I have gathered this power by the realization of my inner self. We, the humans, hold mammoth powers that lie within us, and have the potential to transform lives. The ones who are on ever-exploring spree often get the equations right and are able to bring a radical change in the circumstances; others simply curse the fate and get moved in the direction of the force that has overpowered them.

We must be our own masters or else the vilifying attempts of people with suppressed conscience would keep on bringing you the dishonor and disturbance that you don’t deserve. I was taken aback in disbelief when I first discovered that one of closest pals didn’t think twice in cheating me with money when I was experiencing the hilliest of all the problems. The more you are connected with your folks, the more wounded you come out when breach of trust happens. With passing times, my armor of experiences has grown out of proportions, and this day, I find myself at a juncture where I am less prone to get succumbed to such baleful attempts. 

Memoirs of early years

I remember an incidence when I had just started my hospital. There came a patient, a rather young male who had just entered in his thirties, after being suffered multiple burn injuries by getting inflicted with high tension wires. At the time of his admission, the likelihood of his survival was pretty miserable in view of clinical state. He had sustained about 60% burns that contained both superficial and deep ones. The patient stayed at my hospital for about 6 weeks and emerged out a winner. I could not gather a single moment when I saw him getting hopeless or dull; he had this verve of life – a superfluous one. At the time of discharge, his total hospital bill was about Rs 94,000. Though we have this rule of getting payments deposited as the expenditures soar high, we don’t follow this rule with finicky attire. This is one rule that has been kept flexible; especially for the poor patients, I have instructed my staff to practice more compassion than what is the usual norm. This patient had deposited Rs 24,000 in his hospital’s account and was left with no more money. He explained this to me and said he is not in a position to return me the balance amount. 

I was curious to know why he did not opt to get his treatment done at some of the government hospital where expenses would have been far less and they even have separate burn care units with specialists 24X7. He responded after a long silence with lachrymose eyes and a heavy heart. What he said was enough to bolster my amour proper to a significant extent. He said ,” Sir, I am really sorry for not being able to pay you back for the services that you provided me when I needed them most. The moment you first attended me, I knew I was in exceptionally safe and capable hands. Had I not been in a penny-pinching state, I would have merrily given you the balance sum, and I promise to return it back to you in the years to come. What you have done to me is angelic and now I believe my mother’s words that used to stress over the fact that one comes across angels and demons in flesh and blood. I am yet to see a person as self-sacrificing as you.”

With years of social experience it does not take me a long time to decipher what’s going on in a person’s mind as he speaks a certain sentence. I was sure that this person stayed at my hospital in spite of not having any money because he trusted me with his life. I patted him on his back and told him to attend the follow up sessions on time. The moment he was about to leave my consultation room, I whispered softly that I don’t need the balance amount from him. Even before I could have finished my statement, he was brought in to tears. He cried for a long time and I consoled him. That is what I say a seraphic relationship. Beyond the description of ordinary words; the more I see life, the more I want to indulge in such selfless relationships where you only spread hope, love and compassion. Had I not been a doctor, I would certainly have not been able to experience the tranquility that peeps in my life from such sacrosanct experiences.

Friday, June 29, 2012

Don’t play small

Our deepest fear should not be about our inadequacies. We are powerful beyond measures, beyond ordinary recognitions. It must be in our light, rather than in our darkness, that should frighten us. It’s terrifying for some of us to shine our lights as dazzlingly as we are capable, and it doesn’t bother me to say that preponderance of people out there struggle with this facet of life at some point in their lives. A lot of melancholy and frustration in the world today emanates from disinclination or incapacity to shine one’s light and to truly express the greatness that we contain within ourselves.

If you are struggling with some specific part of life, may be it’s time to sit and list out the possible reasons. To identify the problem areas is the foremost step in deducing a plan of action. If your quench for your dreams is going steel-solid, nothing should deter you from tasting success and basking in the glory of accomplishments. Don’t limit the trajectory of your dreams; flutter freely for the wings of your consciousness are as much immortal as the sky and the earth are. If there’s something you’ve been wanting for a long time but have not been able to achieve it, it’s possible that some part of your own inner self doesn’t really want that thing or situation you’re trying to accomplish.

Put in some fuel in leveraging self-belief. No cause is worthy enough to rob you off your dream. You are here in this world to make things happen; nothing special would be served to you in your plate – you have to earn every ounce of it. And here lies the beauty of life and Mother Nature; for them ore you see your affinity with your cause, the forces tend to align with you in making your belief getting final shape. You have been given a human’s life; you are capable of rational thoughts and analytical power; you are here to create your destiny yourself. The answers lie within you, and once you find them, you are well on your way to shining your light in the world and infusing life in your dreams.

10 types of people you should avoid

  1. Bosses who tell you to do them a favor by putting in an extra hour of work after your shift has ended.
  2. People who cut lines to reach the window, without fail.
  3. Teachers who constantly remind pupils about what they can’t achieve in their lives.
  4. Parents who fail to respect their kids.
  5. Pretentious friends, who claim to have done everything that you eye for.
  6. Officers who take advantage of their governmental positions
  7. Coworkers who claim they had told you so
  8. Friends who have their own fleet of genuine-looking excuses when you need them the most
  9. People with volatile tempers and lack of motivation
  10. Doctors who delay unnecessarily in dispatching their duties

20 things you can achieve in 10 minutes

  1. Burn 200 calories.
  2. Take a small nap.
  3. Plan a surprise party for your colleague.
  4. Get a family photograph clicked.
  5. Get involved with a Child Relief NGO.
  6. Open up the window and breathe some fresh air.
  7. Read the editorial page of your favorite newspaper.
  8. Read the preface of a book and plan the reading sessions for the week ahead.
  9. Call your parents.
  10. Get a reality check with your child’s progress in his academics.
  11. Prepare fruit salad.
  12. Wipe out someone’s tears.
  13. Organize your drawer and clean your keyboard.
  14. Make a list of ‘to-do’ activities for the month.
  15. Write an email to your future spouse.
  16. Hum a nostalgic tune.
  17. Bask in the glory of silence.
  18. Read the reviews of a newly released book / film.
  19. Change the passwords of your social media identities.
  20. Write a blog post.

5 self help tactics for depression

Pangs of depression hold the abhorrent capacity to incapacitate a person. In today’s life, we have a lot of people suffering with underlying depression in view of fast changing values, expectations and poor support system. Depending on the extent and severity of underlying depression, you should seek medical help; depression help tactics are a grand way to start the healing process.

Setting goals are a great way to build confidence. When you set a goal for you, you instill self belief in your dejected soul and that, precisely, acts as a panacea in replenishing your positive hormones.

Work out in improving your body language and physical posture. Practice more often to stand straight, smile lavishly, hold your head high and maintain eye contacts. Do it in front of the mirror and commit to memory a time you felt great; this would not just wipe the depression to some extent, but would also help you regaining the lost self-righteousness.

Exercising is an imperative step in releasing gush of positive hormones in your body. This is no hidden truth that exercise makes you feel better, and you must incorporate exercising in your daily routine. It would be great if you can arrange someone to accompany you so that you remain motivated.

Don’t get burdened with a pile of must-to-do activities. Lighten down your workload and split your tasks into smaller portions. Don’t leave a prominent window for unnecessary procrastination; this allows you to complete your projects in a timely manner and desiccate the pulp of problem to an extent.

Surround yourself with happy, supportive folks. Spend time with people who understand you and participate in activities that you revel in such as checking out a new dress, going out for a meal, seeing a movie or visiting some friends.

Determining the causes of your depression is a first-rate first step towards determining the best course of action. In some cases depression suddenly appear in one’s life without an easily discernible root cause; if this is the case, it would be best to see a doctor while continuing these self-help measures.

Lift the pressure-lid off our kids

Every child is born with his quota of happiness; some are easily ecstatic, and some are tough to please. Some children are fussier and some children are more perceptive. Whether your child has a high level of likely happiness or a low down level, he must learn to accept failures. Learning to accept failures would enhance their creative spectrum and when we impulsively protect our children from failure, we dispossess them from learning skills.

Raising children is about inculcating traits, shaping thought process and instilling moral values. It would be rather too direct and cumbersome to just focus about fixing the erratic sides of their behaviors. Children, these days, are exposed to a lot of stimulus and judgments; we must take thoughtful steps to gain acceptance from our children. If we would try to impose our thought process over them, we may risk losing their faith. Teaching children how to burgeon should commence with focusing on their strengths, not their Achilles' heels.
Much of the education is not taught; it is rather attained by own experiences. By teaching you child how to take a failure, you are actually making him learn about the importance of optimism. A child must be involved in a thought process where life is not counted by achievements or setbacks; it is important for a child to learn in a guilt free manner.

By following the dictums of Positive psychology, the child’s strengths must be treated genuinely by the parents. It must be kept in mind to refrain from blunt approaches; a methodical assessment and gradual approach to impart the right stimulus would be the right thing to do. You must not encourage answering in ‘yes’ or ‘no’; when you would attempt to explain things to your child, you would help him to sharpen his thinking neurons, which, in turn, would help him soar the intellectual heights.

10 rules of Yoga Exercises

  1. Ideally, Yoga exercises should be done empty stomach or at least 4-6 hours after taking meals.
  2. It’s best to perform Yoga exercises during the dawn.
  3. Of course, there are a lot of audio-visual resources available these days to help you learn the nuances of Yoga, it would be best to get training from an instructor.
  4. Don’t get exposed to strong, direct winds while performing Yoga exercises.
  5. Don’t attempt to cross your physical limits in a spree of over enthusiasm. Make realistic goals and aim to increase your range of movements and flexibility by and by.
  6. Ensure to alleviate the stiffness of your body before setting to start the Yoga session for the day.
  7. Ideally, you must never get tired while performing Yoga exercises; however, if you feel tired, take rest before proceeding to the next set. Ask your instructor about your technique and duration as well so that you don’t get fatigues frequently.
  8. Yoga exercises are helpful when breathing patterns are manipulated in accordance. If you suffer from any illnesses, or belong to elderly age group, seek your doctor’s opinion before setting your feet to become a Yoga geek.
  9. Don’t allow the kids to do tough Yoga exercises as some of them can interfere with their normal growth patterns.
  10. Don’t eat anything till about 30 minutes after you are done with the day’s Yoga exercises.

Who is not in love with rains?

The delight-amplifying mechanism of Mother Nature induces clouds to pour down heavily in response to the roasting heat caused by the summers. Mystic hues caused by a riot of raindrops; nostalgic aroma of wet earth; water-logged parks with mud-smeared kids; sinking and floating pool of paper boats; window panes getting an eternal caressing from streams of showers; that feel of riotous water trickling down your hair; those facial gestures of a long-held prayer being answered; getting a kick in shearing a water-filled mud hole by speeding our vehicle over it; the mass-hugs and the abundant giggles; the momentary evanescence of worldly worries!!

Rains fulfill a missed connection between us and Mother Nature. I remember those spells of joyous feet-thumping in rain waters, those sprees of singing aloud with a bunch of friends while it rained as if there is no tomorrow. On the outer side, it may seem that rains convolute the orderly arrangements; however, in real, rains serve to make the things attain some patterns, and regain lost sheen. Rains join sky and earth, which otherwise never touch each other. With the interconnectedness of all the elements of Mother Nature, the world seems more fluid than ever when it rains. Oh I have been bitten so badly by the bug of rains! When would it rain in Delhi?

10 things to do before being hospitalized

No one likes to get admitted to the hospital; not even the most fire-eating kind of red-blooded geeks. But then let’s face the music of reality; most of us get admitted to the hospitals for one or the other bodily issues that has gone wrong. If you are heading to get admitted at a hospital for some elective procedure or treatment, it would help you a lot if you take a note of the below mentioned facts;

  1. Make sure everyone in the family is clear of their roles.
  2. Ensure to have a clear idea of expected financial obligations beforehand so that you arrange the entire amount well in time.
  3. Act strong; the best clinical results are obtained when the patient has a tenacious mind and positive outlook.
  4. Don’t leave any pile of works that would bother you while you are being headed to the operation theatre. Apply for sick leave well in advance and engage your colleagues to look after your work in your absence.
  5. Know your rights and responsibilities as a patient. Times have changed and hospital policies have seen a quantum jump from those being practiced may be few years back.
  6. Know about the physical limitations that you would be carrying home after your discharge from the hospital. This way you can plan for necessary arrangements in your house beforehand, saving yourself from a lot of worries.
  7. Request your family members and friends to stick to the visiting time slot of the hospital for meeting you.
  8. Ensure to circumspect every little thing related with your present illnesses. In case you think you have missed out telling a point to your doctor, do so at the first opportunity.
  9. Don’t keep any negative thoughts. Avoid apprehensions and anxieties. Sleep well the night before.
  10. Learn to find humor in every little thing and step out with a radiant confidence to regain health.

Experience 'Nothingness'

Most of us don’t feel in sync with the idea of sitting softly with a bare mind. For most of us the idea of evacuating our minds with any thought seems frightening, and seemingly impossible. If fact, this idea is often a blockade to any attempts to meditate or try exercises that advocate mindfulness. We are so absorbed in our own nests that attempts to see the world beyond it don’t really get our complete conscience working for it.

What often happens when you embark on to focus your thoughts, say on your breathing pattern or on a specific, and imaginary, point of light, is that you discover you are over and over again distracted and running off with stampeding thoughts. This is not something out of the world; it happens during the initial phases of our mind’s conditioning to know beyond what lays ahead our eyes. Distraction, in such settings, is not something that should deter you; distraction is the rule of the thumb which just signifies that you have stepped rightly on the voyage ahead. No one discovered God Particle without just like that.

The process of attempting to focus awareness and realizing that you are barking up wrong tree is priceless. At first this may seem a simple eye-opener, but progressively realizing that your thoughts do not denote your eternal self can be liberating. When you discover that thoughts navigate in a ceaseless flow, you can make choices about how you relate to these thoughts.  It would, solely, depend on you to choose the thoughts which you consider to be allies in your quest to self-realization. Which thoughts will you let pass by in a blink?  Which thoughts do you want to maneuver? Which thoughts are just fillers? Which thoughts carry keys to the bigger expeditions?

Mindfulness is not about suppressing your thoughts; its about holding a command over what enters your mind and what remains there. Make every moment a saga of conscientious awareness and you would witness abundant glorious patterns breathing frantically. Life is an awesome experience; you have the tools and you have the time – knowing the technique can bring a sea change in your perception of the inner world and the outer world.

9 qualities of a doctor

Illness is an unwanted acquaintance that knocks during the oddest of hours. It might fall unbeknownst to you, leaving you with little opportunity to think and react sensibly. Behavioral Sciences have established that a person is prone to think irrationally under stressful situations; more the stress, more the deviance from obvious logics. You must practice healthy habits; you must make friends with peaceful, fun loving people; you must not carry mental stress for extended hours; you must not take life in its face value; you must be judicious in selecting your doctor.

  1. Your doctor must be experienced enough to be able to track down rarer clinical cases.
  2. Your doctor must be an easy to talk to person. Snobbishness is a strict no no.
  3. Your doctor’s sense of humor must be intact and flowing. Too much seriousness, in itself, is a disease.
  4. Your doctor must not give you a quizzical look when you ask something that medical fraternity considers too obvious a piece of knowledge.
  5. Your doctor must respect you, and your family. If you think that your inputs are not been treated properly by your doctor, may be its time to rethink about your choice.
  6. Your doctor must never develop cold feet when you want him to discuss your case with one of his superiors/peers.
  7. Your doctor must not be too self-worshipping; accepting shortcomings or ignorance would leverage one’s stature in the long run.
  8. Your doctor must be radiating with confidence; a meek opinion is not always considered to be the unbiased one.
  9. Your doctor must not try to use overtly complex medical jargons while communicating with you; unless of course you, yourself, belong to medical fraternity. 

Thursday, May 31, 2012

15 Random questions - What is your take?

  1. Suppose you, or for that matter any one else, don’t know your biological age. What do you think your age would be?
  2. Do you fear death? If yes, do you fear taking birth also?
  3. What do you think you are at best if no one is there to make opinions at?
  4. When surrounded by a group of people, do you feel stressed or at ease?
  5. Why does it happen that most of the landmark events of your life happen to take place on a specific day of the week?
  6. Are you living on an auto-pilot mode or there lies a force which wants YOU to live?
  7. Are you aware of your biggest emotional weakness?
  8. Have you ever tried thinking what would you get when you mix history with mathematics?
  9. Do you ask enough questions or do you settle with the knowledge that you have?
  10. Do you get repetitive dreams?
  11. When you speak with someone, which is the more important line – the first one or the last one?
  12. What do you choose – Time or Money?
  13. Is your awareness responsive to others’ intuitions?
  14. Do you live your own life or are you a part of a mass-existence?
  15. Mass and energy are inter-convertible. Period! What about space? 

Philosophical Kid

I get stirred with the history of modern philosophy. Though, being a doctor, it gives me little time to read anything that doesn’t fall in the realms of medical sciences; still, hand me a book with chronicles of modern philosophy, and I am like a kid who just got his favorite pack of candies. I get gooseflesh reading the works of Plato, Aristotle, Voltaire, Francis Bacon, Herbert Spencer, Benedetto Croce and John Dewey; and the more I am able to know their minds, the more I am in awe of possibilities of human mind.

As being a scientific specialist, I have been conditioned to see what lies in front and then to find out the basis of its existence; the philosophers, however, have a different way of thinking. They tend to make opinions at a grand scale even about the things which most of us would think to be non-existential. Philosophy is the content of life; just like the molecules make a substance, in my opinion, philosophy makes a life. It is sad to see that in today’s world of shrinking relationships and swelling frustration, people still don’t realize the importance of philosophical interventions.

Philosophical sciences are all-encompassing; these would not be restrained by peripheries like most of other sciences are. I believe, if our education systems can empower our kids to get a slice of philosophy from the tender years, in a way that is applicable to them, it can make a great impact on collective growth of nations and people. In life, thought process is the only power we have; and philosophy helps us in aiming the spot right. 

Stellar Power of Rapid Cognition

We must be aware of the stellar power of rapid cognition. Most of us don’t spare a thought over where our first impressions come from. Even before the neural circuit of our conscious brain can attempt a decoding, our subconscious seems to form an opinion. Is the cognition a result of acquired intelligence of our present life, or of many lives that we have lived in the celestial space? It happens so often that an opinion, a thought intrudes our minds and turns out to be true; odds have chances to win but what prompts our minds to give an advantage to underdogs when compared with established winners?

What is the rule of winning? What prompts us to cheer a little known side in a game of soccer when the odds are high that it would, eventually, be knocked out mercilessly within minutes? What makes an underperformer overcome a giant one odd day? Self belief or tryst with destiny, or a combination of both? Is there an equation behind or is that just by chance? ‘Just by chance’ must also be driven by some principles, I am sure; so what takes it to break the myths and achieve something stellar. Premonitions have not been given ample of scientific leverage in our traditional medical sciences; I think a lot about basic functioning of abstract human mind and the more I think the more I get puzzled.

There are a lot of facts for which the reasons are so many to choose from; there are a lot of ironies which need judicious explanations; the dogma of premonitions, and human subconscious, is waiting to be explored. Isn’t it time to get hold of all the ancient scriptures and try to find a scientific basis for the mentioned nuggets of knowledge? 

20 ways to make world a better place

  1. Tip generously.
  2. Don’t speak to anyone in a derogatory tone.
  3. Go out of your way to make new friends and colleagues.
  4. Hold the door open for the person coming behind you.
  5. Don’t throw away your old clothes and household items; for someone, they are as good as the new ones.
  6. Listen absorbedly to people’s stories without trying to interrupt too often.
  7. Write a positive review about a service, an article, a local business you like.
  8. Register yourself for blood donation camps; when blood is required by a patient, nothing else can do better.
  9. Share your umbrella with a stranger on a rainy day; and if it’s a group of strangers’, give the umbrella to them and come home soaked in rains.
  10. Crack the ice with someone who looks forlorn.
  11. Let someone with only a handful of items cut you in line at the billing counter at a mall.
  12. Try your best to cheer the spirits the first thing you step in your workplace; it may be accomplished by a joke, a compliment or spread of good news.
  13. Help a stranger who finds it difficult to park his/her car in a crowded parking lot.
  14. Make pen friends / e mail friends.
  15. Learn about different cultures; the more you know, the better you get equipped with a wonderful thought-process.
  16. Compliment a little kid who performed for the first time on the school play.
  17. Donate regularly. Make it a never-ending habit.
  18. Interact with your friends; it’s not important that your facebook friend list swells to 1000, however, it is important that even if it is a small bunch of buddies, you keep in touch by messages / phone calls and get-togethers.
  19. Express your love. Let it be to your spouse, your parents, your boss, your siblings, your friends, your philosophy, your pet… anything!!
  20. Become a mentor to someone who is shy to ask you.

5 ways to become optimistic

Seek opportunities in doleful moments: Don’t wait for the right moment to fall in your lap like an autumn leaf; you have to go after an opportunity with a club. You might come across a rather doleful period in your life, but that shouldn’t stop you from thinking about the brighter horizons that lie just ahead of it. Fill your faith in an opportunity and fail to bite the dust. Give yourself for a cause and hold eternal belief in it, no matter what way the tides are flowing. Sometimes, it takes a conscious effort to waft away the clouds of uncertainties, in order to pave way for the rainbow of optimism.

Keep yourself surrounded by a horde of enthusiasts: Our mind processes the environmental stimuli with precision, and in a determined way. Chances are that more you keep in the company of dull and pessimistic folks, you would feel burdened without any precise reasons. That’s why it is said that keep yourself surrounded by hope and humor; a simulating music can do wonders to uplift your spirits. Optimism has to be cultivated sometimes, and being in the company of positive people is just acts as a catalyst. Make it a mission to dodge the pessimism in its entirety; if you are not able to find a happy face, create one.

Invest in Love: Love is said to be the most fundamental emotion that Mother Nature had to offer. In every religion, enough has been said about the significance of love; it is an amulet that transforms lives. Reminisce the moments of pure love that happened in your life frequently; train yourself to deal every little problem of your life with something that ‘love’ is a part of. When you become conditioned to ‘love’ unconditionally, you would find yourself soaked in the glory of optimism. Love and optimism are inseparable and grow synergistically.

Be Spiritually guided: I am sure most of us understand that the purpose of life is not just to earn, eat and pass away; it has more meanings to it. If you, even for a minute, tend to take your mind away from all the worldly worries and focus on your own inner self, chances are that you would feel energized and confident. Invest faith in the true meaning of life; you are here to spread the optimism, love, hope and faith, the rest of the things that are important to live a life would follow on their own. One can be experience spiritual rendezvous sitting on the office desk, in the crowded market yard and even in the face of the toughest adversity of one’s life.

Expect a little from people around: Every person has its own set of DNA; every one can not fall straight to your expectations. Realize this fact and save yourself from some unnecessary worries which mount to feeling of exhaustion, hopelessness and dejection. Your purpose is to make your life a joy ride by least interfering, or being least affected with other person’s ways of living. Do your best to transform lives, but don’t carry expectations; for when expectations are marred, negativity can announce its birth. Explore your higher centers of thinking and don’t get affected by criticism, hypocrisy or failures.

Are you devoting some time to yourself?

What do you see when you fix your gaze with your mirror-image? There are more than normal chances that you would observe crowfeet, wrinkles, hyper-pigmentation and sagging skin, especially if you have crossed 30 years of your life! Take out some time to look beyond that; can you imagine you had been one of the cutest toddlers of your extended family. What happened to your facial luminosity? Nothing, it lies all there but the eyes fail to see that. Attempt to see that beautiful person that lies beneath your skin, and feel good after realization. Beauty is not skin deep; it is something beyond the reach of measurable finites.

The struggle for existence is, not altogether, an evil; the important virtue is to know that you are special in the whole world. Make attempts for continuous enlargement for the area of peace and love in your inner self, and then your spiritual vision would show you vivid colors that you are made of. Its all about clear thinking and fixing of priorities. Every person should be respected as an absolute end in himself, and yet, every person must be treated as an essential part of the cosmos. Get a hands-on experience with the subtle depth and omnipresent force of instinct and timeless faith, and that would be the time when you would feel at the maximum effortlessness. You must start your own voyage for long-sought-for and long-despaired-of inner reality and essence of life, which is ecstatically beautiful and ageless. 

The Joy of catching up 'Breaking News'

The glorious morning welcomes you with cloudy sky and clear conscience. Somnolent leaves get stirred with jealous thrusts of mighty winds, and infuse freshness in the broad canvas of life. You get hold of your newspaper with a pregnant poise and open the first leaf in the expectation of some nice stuff that holds some importance to you in your life. Alas, most of the times, the front page is abuzz with diurnal activities of self-worshipping leaders. Sigh! You keep on turning page after page; a nice coverage of the ‘should-be’ pulchritudinous foreign policy; a peep in the personal life of the tinsel town’s most written about kid; the discovery of yet another genomic sequence responsible for obesity or Alzheimer’s disease or Kleptomania; the over decorated coverage of a trivial achievement of a political party; the insider’s version of how far the petrol prices can soar till the mass-anxiety of apocalypse sees a slow death; the fanciful photos of western damsels with over-glorification of their achievements that have little to do with infant mortality rate,  or with avoidable maternal mortality rate of our country.

Expecting a better dose from TV can make you pluck that last bunch of friable hair from your scalp; reporters regurgitate anything to capture eyeballs, little aware of the fact that brain is the higher learning centre and not the eyes. Some channel would show a grotesque, and at times, biased analysis of your celestial existence and birth charts. Some channel would report events that clearly favor a section of political parties; some channel would be telecasting heated debate over 3rd ball of 5th over of a league match of IPL; some channel would be infusing wisdom that if you don’t purchase that aluminum wallet, your brain has possibly atrophied beyond permissible limits. Such is the glory of every morning; the saga of breaking news sometimes is powerful enough to disjoint our day before it starts. I submit no complains, as there are takers for every little fictitious news, everywhere. Are you also seeing the numb reporter painstakingly trying to make sense about the high-than-normal possibility of ‘tomato flu’ in your neighborhood?

Don't stop loving; it's the only true emotion.

Love is the pith of the universe; love is the mother of all the pleasures. Love is the only real clout. Love enlightens the darkest of the creeks in convoluted layers of our existential realities. I am sure most of us have experienced love, in its purest form, at one or the other time in our lives. Can you close your eyes and let the gush of those memories fill in your veins again? You would feel touched, elated, at loss of words and abundance of bliss. Love is splendiferous in bearing colossal healing powers. The thought of love is said to indie release of positive hormones from the body’s  reserve; what else proof one would ask for in establishing seraphic nature of love?

Christians believe that to Love God with all your heart, mind, and strength and Love your neighbor as yourself are the two most important things in life.

In Hebrew, love is known to be the central force that drives universe. Ahava is the most commonly used term for both interpersonal love and love between God and God's creations.

In Islam Amongst the 99 names of God (Allah), there is the name Al-Wadud, or "the Loving One," which is found in Surah.

God in Sufism is referred to in three main terms, which are the Lover, Loved, and Beloved, with the last of these terms being often seen in Sufi poetry.

In Hinduism, attaining pure, unconditional and incessant love for Godhead is considered the primordial goal of life.

Its tormenting to see that old age parents are being neglected, and often abused; what happened to the concept of parental love? Are we too busy to reminisce the time when we were toddlers and our parents worked hard to keep our bellies and beds warm? It is indeed extremely sad to see the case of female infanticides; even animals don’t behave such brutally. Justification of honor killing frightens me to death; legislations are not enough to curb the menace of conditions that arise due to loss of love; we must fall in love more often. When love seeps in our thought process, it starts manifesting its metamorphosing abilities, and life becomes beautiful.

My Hospital. My Pride.

I have worked relentlessly to create a place where rich and poor can get the best of the healing worlds without any prejudice. I always had my thoughts about making a world class hospital Euclideanly clear, and that has saved me a lot of laconic obscurity that could have blurred the precision of final picture. My emotions are attached with every brick that was ever laid in the foundation of my hospital, for I did it because I was determined, and possibly destined, to do it. My hospital may not be having the sheen of newly built empires of MNCs foraying in the realms of healthcare, but nevertheless, I put smiles to ailing hearts, and that’s enough for me to hold my head high.

I pray to Almighty in atonement every day for giving me the mind, vision and support to spearhead the fight against illnesses that afflict people irrespective of their socio-economic status. Years of plain living and high thinking have given me an advantage of being able to exercise the power of bringing pleasant changes in people’s lives. I believe my birth, my rearing and education, had all pointed, not towards any other profession but health care sciences. I have always thought that my duty towards my countrymen had special claims upon me, such as could not be urged by other duties of life. I have never repented my inability to catch forty winks more than fifty hours at a stretch multiple times in my practice. Many a dreams develop their own wings and limbs and bring about a change in society; my dream followed the same trajectory and I am proud to have created a hospital where ‘care is a culture’.

Wednesday, May 30, 2012

'Star' of my hospital

I have learnt some of the biggest lessons in my life by being in the company of selfless people. One such name that has always rekindled hopes, even in the state of uncontrolled inner turbulence, in me is Sister Mercy Mathews. She is, without a second thought ever, matron of Khetarpal Hospital and one of the best persons that stepped in the realms of my life ever. I am yet to see a more disciplined individual than her. She has never turned a minute late for her duties in past 15 years.

Most of my old patients know her, and take pride in the fact of knowing her, for they believe to have been looked after by the most angelic personality ever. Sister Mercy remains imperturbable, and glowing even in the face of prevalent chaos and mounting work load. She, possibly, is alien to the concept of any other vocal tone except to that of utter compassion and care. Many a times, patients’ relatives, in a frenzied state, tend to speak harsh, but that hasn’t came across her way of displaying the most beatific and saintly spirits.

I have seen her fighting some of the callous battles of life alone with undeterred belief in the power of hope and belief; needless to say she has been able to overcome every possible atrocity that crossed her life. I make it a point to appoint the newly joined staff nurses under her supervision so that they may take a slice of life and attempt to reinvent themselves. I have never had a patient complaining directly about her, and the list of patients who genuinely express eloquent words for her selfless nature, compassionate attitude and kind gestures seem to be on a constant uphill. 

The Vogue of 'Doctor bashing'

In past few years, I must have read more than 100 times that a doctor has been beaten up by the public, citing reasons for medical negligence. The policy makers, however, remain in the state of acquired & selective immune state to the pity condition pertaining to security of doctors. Being in the medical profession actively, I have, myself, been in unpleasant states many times; I have been threatened, I have been bullied at, I have been shouted at.

Doctors, in the aftermath of such an incident, kick a strike or raise slogans against authorities, which leads to solutions with little shelf lives. Can a doctor work with free mind when the dangers of being maltreated loom high? Would a parliamentarian agree to consult a doctor for his own treatment minutes after the doctor had been at the receiving end of mass apathy stimulated by a mean rabble-rouser? A doctor spends golden years of his life in the company of volumes of books to get well equipped with the art of healing; but that doesn’t mean that every ailment is manageable. Things take their own course despite the best of treatment plans and outcomes might not be in direct proportion to the hopes and prayers of the patient’s relatives.

Sometimes, I feel nauseated by the phlegmatic gesture of the people who rule the country. If a doctor feels unsafe while serving the patients, there is something gross amiss in the policies and groundwork. No one likes to be humiliated by public bashing after unsuccessfully trying to save a life; not being able to possess divine powers is not akin to crime. 

Ever felt victim of 'Mass Narcissism'?

Be expansive. Be unrestrained. Learn to listen to your own self. Opt for your choices yourself, as that is the best way to learn and live. A human is a complex, yet orderly, array of different mechanisms and substances. We have affinities. We have tendencies. We are blessed with a machine, but onus of making the best use of this machine lies solely on us only. Education helps in unearthing the little known, but vital facts about life, its scope and its vastness. Independent thought process also helps in sharpening the skills required to see beyond what is visible to ordinary eyes and minds.

If you are meant to be a good violin player, chances are that you would have felt proximity to the instrument, and to the whole process of playing it and listening to it. Now why do you want to learn Java when it bores you to death? Why not master yourself in the art (or science) of your choice? Some kids are born leaders; sometimes they trespass the intellectual limits of their parents to which the parents don’t take a kind attitude. As a result, they are forced to think a definite way. Clearly, independence is taken away in the name of family norms. A life is something bigger. To produce changes in the society, we need to make leaders. And to make leaders, we need to allow the liberty of free thinking to our kids.

Swelled-headed attitude of parents results in mismatched choices that their progenies are burdened with. This leads to the birth of conflicts, often turning to the fine kettle of fish. Every one has 24 hours in a day, every one has the same sun and moon, then why isn’t everyone bestowed with the liberty to make opinions and defend them intellectually? Our thought process is our biggest armor in the vast cosmos; why every one wants to muddle with our biggest strength? Any one heard of mass narcissism? Why don’t we come out of the self-imposed circle of self-doubts? Why don’t we yearn to find the real meaning of happiness?

Where are the Game-Changers?

The other day I was watching a documentary on CNN which showed the queasiness of human life with a close perspective. Malnourished kids living in over crowded and unhygienic mud huts; lack of adequate drinking water and whatever was available, I believe, contained virulent strains of E Coli. This scene belonged to interiors of Bihar and I was, literally, taken aback at the apathy that the society bears to them. I include myself in the list of culprits. I took few resolutions to make a change in those precious lives which have been turned redundant by the sharp turn of fate.

How beautiful the world had been if before uncorking a packaged bottle of drinking water, we could have stopped for a millisecond and thought about those fragile females who have to walk for miles to fetch a bucket of water from the contaminated well.

How beautiful the world had been, if in spite of wasting hundreds of hours over watching mindless daily soaps, some of us would have determined to devote that amount of time doing social service.

How beautiful the world had been if we stopped for a millisecond before feeding the leftover to our kitchen bin, and thought about millions who had to sleep hungry last night.

Cricket and cinema make us go brouhaha; why don’t we face life? Why the suicide of a farmer doesn’t affect us deeply? Why don’t we get moved watching little kids glancing at the garbage to find out something to eat? Why should we spend on 5 star meals if some of our people are a rupee short of purchasing a paracetamol tablet? We pay income taxes to the government; why shouldn’t we be taken in confidence while making budgets and executing policies? Is the current system the best one? Where are the policy-formulators, the revolutionists, the game-changers?

A Handful of Sky

Charity must be a way of life. I strongly feel that a life is incomplete without making others feel your presence in a beautiful way. The sense of caring, the sense of belonging, and the sense of inclusiveness gives you that ripsnorting edge in life. Society expects a lot from the doctors. The policy makers, the leaders, the common man – all of them expect near-divine gestures from the doctors, all the time. Perfect! But it doesn’t mean that other people should get away from charity. Doctors are supposed to work in rural settings as per the law, but why this bias? I mean, it’s well enough that the doctors would work for the cause of underprivileged, but why not include other think-tanks also? Why not include engineers, social workers, teachers and professionals of other frontiers to display the same gesture? Everyone bears a responsibility for the country, and its people.

It must come to our own inner self to work for the people who are in need. Money and career are important, but not at the cost of humanity. One must indulge in charity regularly, and charity doesn’t always mean financial help. Offer free services in your best capabilities. India resides in villages; get a break and observe the reality closely. It’s important for our kids to get a brush with the realities of villages, realities of a common man. Life has a meaning; get in to the groove and emerge out as selfless and as noble as possible. Till proven otherwise, believe that you have been given human life to serve some purposes; and what better that to create a change in others’ lives?

Sunday, April 29, 2012

Be guided by Intuitions

I wish there could have a mind-mapping system based on the power of intuitions. We have GPS systems to enable our physical trajectories enriched and informed; what sea changes in our lives can occur if we are able to weigh the relevance of intuitions, in isolation or in combination?

GPS System is based on previous recordings, the relevant data and the authentic information about a place’s whereabouts and reach. Can our intuitions also lead us somewhere, if given a scientific thin-slicing? Intuitions are not the progenies of left-over thoughts; I believe enough scientific and spiritual work is needed to prove the real motive and significance of intuitions.

It’s not in the jolts of psychoneurotic trance that one comes across truthful intuitions; we witness their close brush with reality in broad day light, every now and then. The question is who is allowed to witness what measure of intuitional accuracy? Do you rough away the facts by rendering them premonitions or a portion of your nervous system feels an affinity to dwell a little deep within?

What is the etiology of intuitions? What are the pathways of intuitions? What are the fundamental reasons for origin of intuitions? What drives intuitions? Period!! What is an intuition? Does it hold some link between our past lives and present life? Does it hold some clue to the development of our super-sensory system?